Monday, January 7, 2013

The Waiting Ends

We got the call Sunday morning at 9:45. Matt had died sometime during the night. Alone. That bothered Michael until I reminded him what we learned from hospice: people choose if they want to die surrounded by people or alone. That is the reason they recommend that people take a 10-minute break every hour while holding a vigil. Matt wanted to die alone.

Michael cried on and off most of the day and I was awakened as he cried a bit in the middle of the night. Plans are being made. In two weeks, he and the twin will drive to Las Vegas to help pack up her apartment and drive it all to Orange County to be near Anna and Mary's sister Patty. She wants to stay with Patty for a while. They are beginning to make plans for a memorial service.

We called William to let him know the news. He barely remembers Matt. I asked that he send a card with a note to his Grandma Mary. It would mean a lot to her. She doesn't know him well, really only through our tales of his adventures throughout his life. She is rather in awe of him. A note from him would give her comfort.

We are going to continue our lives today. Michael is going to work on a project, I am going to work out  then visit with my mom but thoughts of Matt will still be in the forefront today. Huge changes will be happening within the family with ripples lasting for years.

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