Grieving Completed

Michael realized just these past few months that he has finally gone through the process of grieving.

Grieving for our relationship.
Grieving for having to watch the slow downward progression from 
an illness of his spouse.
Grieving for our former lifestyle.
Grieving that our future has changed and is so different 
from everyone else’s.
Grieving because of the knowledge that our time together is limited.

Six years. That is how long it has taken to get it all settled in his body. Six long years. He said initially, the focus was on all the lawyers and lawsuits and the drama of it all. That is now finished business. Our lives have settled into a routine.

I noticed a change in him. It is like he finally had decided to move forward and to see the positive in our situation instead of dwelling on the things that could have been.

His job has been really good for him mentally. He works for great people who respect him and pay him well. He says he is really happy there. That is such a relief for me.

He doesn’t seem to be so stressed over the bumps in the road regarding my health. He was super sensitive to any changes and would worry so much. I think he now realizes that it is part of the process. I will have my ups and downs and we just have to deal with what comes. And goes.

I feel his focus now is more on the future. We can make plans. We can move forward.