Remember that old song? Tammy Wynette, I think.
Divorce.
During William’s senior year in high school, it became an almost weekly event. Each week, another one of his friend’s parents were separating and/or divorcing. It was over a dozen. In fact, at one point, Michael turned to me and asked, “We’re doing fine, aren’t we? I just want to be sure!”
In every case, it was the woman filing. I began to be aware of a trend. It is the "20-years together" trend. It is a dangerous time for a marriage if the marriage is not solid.
It is the time when children are usually leaving for college or going out on their own.
It is a time when a woman looks at her situation and her husband and decides if she wants to spend the rest of her life with him.
It is a time when a woman looks at her situation and her husband and decides if she wants to spend the rest of her life with him.
It is the time when she feels that she has fulfilled her obligations, gotten the children into college and how it is her turn.
The women I spoke with had talked to their spouses about their issues for years only to be rebuffed. When they filed for divorce, the husbands suddenly wanted counseling.
I also learned that when a woman has made up her mind to leave, counseling is too late. It is over.
Michael got a hair cut yesterday and his hairdresser told us that she and her husband were getting a divorce. Her youngest is graduating from high school this year and the others are working or going to college.
She is done. She did not want to spend the rest of her life with him. She had tried. They did some counseling. He was shocked she was leaving him.
Tend your relationship.
The women I spoke with had talked to their spouses about their issues for years only to be rebuffed. When they filed for divorce, the husbands suddenly wanted counseling.
I also learned that when a woman has made up her mind to leave, counseling is too late. It is over.
Michael got a hair cut yesterday and his hairdresser told us that she and her husband were getting a divorce. Her youngest is graduating from high school this year and the others are working or going to college.
She is done. She did not want to spend the rest of her life with him. She had tried. They did some counseling. He was shocked she was leaving him.
Tend your relationship.
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